How To Connect With Your Spirit Guides To Help Your Life

Our spirit guides are always there to help us. But there are ways that we can help them to help us better. Here's how.

First of all it's important to know that they are always there to help but you run the show. They are there to help you but cannot go against your wishes even if it could harm you. 

They cannot interfere with your free will. They will try their best to give you signs and steer you away from harm but your choices are always in control. You are always in control. You are always driving the car, they are more of a backseat passenger that's trying to help you. 

They have a bigger perspective from where they are and can see things that you may not be able to. That's why building the best relationship you can with them can be so helpful. If you are really connected to them it can be sort of like a cheat sheet through life and can save a lot of mishaps and trouble, if you listen that is. 

Most people get so many signs from them that they just ignore or down play. Be sure to always listen to any intuition messages you get or feelings. Start trusting yourself and your guides more. The more you trust yourself and your intuition, the stronger and more helpful it gets. 

At first, try to set up a specific consistent time to connect with them. Many like to do this right before bed or first thing in the morning because connection can be easier. Just sort of meditate with an intention of connecting to them. Really be open and pay attention to any thoughts and feelings. Keep a journal and write anything you get down. Looking back on what you write down can be so helpful later on. 

It may not make sense in that moment but after time has passed it will be clearer and make more sense. And seeing things in hindsight can help you to see the messages in the right way ahead of time next time. It's like learning the language of your guide and becoming fluent in it to make things easier for you. There is a dance and learning process that is important just like in any relationship. 

Over time you will start to remember what their presence feels like so when they are trying to help you, you can pick up on it easier. 

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As you get more comfortable with your guides, use the time to connect with them to be really clear on what you want. The clearer and more specific you are, the better they can help you.  

One thing that is very important is to make sure your actions line up with your thoughts about what you want. Our actions and what we physically do will always outweigh our thoughts. 

So if you are telling your guides you want a partner that treats you right but are allowing and staying with a partner that doesn't treat you right, your guides can only help you stay with someone that treats you wrong because that's what you are showing you really want. 

Our free will can never be interfered with so what your actions are showing you want is what your guide will help you to continue with. This can also cause us to hire a negative spirit guide to help us do things that aren't good for us which can be frustrating. 

So it's vital to really be sure your actions match up with what you really want. Don't say you want one thing but do something that doesn't match that. And what and who you allow around you is a big part of our actions speaking for us. Don't allow anyone or anything around you that doesn't match up with what you want. 

So if you are really clear with them on what you want and are taking actions to match that, then your guides can help you tremendously! Like everything in life, being clear on what you want and showing that in your actions is so important. 

So really open up to and connect with your guides, it is so beneficial. The more you do,  the more help you can get from them. So use your power and free will with your guides' help and create the life you want now! You are in control! 

4 Steps To Create The Life You Want

We all can create the lives we want. So many settle and think they have to stick with the life they have but that's not true. There is always a way to start towards the life you really want. Here are some tips to get there. 

1. Know what you want. 

The first and most important thing is to know what you do want and what you don't want. You can not create without having at the least an idea of what you want to start with. 

Even if you don't know for sure, focus on what you think you want and start working towards it. As you get closer if you realize you don't want that anymore let that be okay. That will help you to further narrow down what you do want. 

It's so important to be clear on what you want, if not then what you want will be decided for you and you won't be happy. So really take time to focus on getting clear on what you want. The clearer you are, the more your spirit guides can help you with it. 

Indecision is a sure way to feel stuck and you don't want that. Some people stay stuck in indecision because they are perfectionists and are afraid of making the wrong choice. The only real wrong choice is not making one at all. If you never make a choice you can never move forward and can never create the life you want. 

Even the wrong choice will help you tremendously. It helps you to figure out what you don't want and to get clearer on what you do want. So let go of that fear to make a decision and start going for it! That is the only way to have the life you really want! 

If you feel stuck and indecisive, doing something, anything out of your comfort zone can help to open up your creative energy and get your thoughts flowing. Really focus on what you want and what makes you happy. 

2. Elimination 

We all have a certain amount of time and in order to put what we want in our lives we must cut out some things that we can replace with what we want. 

So first start with what don't you want that's in your life? What do you feel just obligated to do? Obligation is never good for anyone and always takes you off of your path. Know that you can say no! 

Really work towards eliminating things that you really don't want to do. There is always a way to make a change. It may take time to implement but just starting towards it makes a huge difference. Your time is precious,  fill it with what makes you happy and with what is fulfilling the rest is not important!

Also look into who you are around in your life. Even just one negative person can create a huge issue in your life. Work towards being only around those that lift you up not bring you down or cause drama. Just allowing one of those people in your life will cause you to attract more of that. 

It's your life and you can choose who you want to be around no matter the person is to you. Yes it may be hard but is being miserable forever really worth it instead of taking the hard step to move forward from them? 

Really look at who or what is holding you back and work towards eliminating them/it from your life. You have the power to create that happy life and sometimes that takes some hard choices but it is worth it. A little while of a hard choice is worth forever with peace and happiness. 

Also look at what you are doing in your life that is unnecessary. So many think that they just HAVE to do everything but that's not true. Really see what you can cut back on or eliminate to give yourself more time for what you do want. Work with your happiness and fulfillment in all areas of your life as your main focus! 

3. Plan

Once you know what you do want and eliminate what you don't want, now it's time to start planning. Really plan ahead and schedule in what you do want to be sure you can do it. Make it important and put it on your calendar. 

So many think what they want isn't important enough to schedule and then they never get to it. But in fact that is the most important thing! We are here on earth to experience and express ourselves so that really should be number one on all of our lists! 

Also think ahead about the steps it will take to create what you want. Do you need to go back to school or get more training for that dream job? Do you need to finally make time for that hobby you so enjoy? Do you need time for you to just rest and read a book? 

Whatever it is, break it down into steps and start towards it one step at a time. Don't overwhelm yourself thinking of all the steps it will take, just focus on one step at a time and before you know it you will reach your goal! 

Just starting in the right direction can be so fulfilling just in itself and can give you lots of momentum. So take time to plan out and schedule the steps to get to the life you want. No excuses! 

4. Implement 

Now start implementing your plan! You have that time scheduled in now so do it! As you do, pay attention if you need to make any tweaks or changes. Your life is always a work in progress so keep making changes until you get it exactly how you want! 

Always be open to seeing anything you aren't happy with and start to change that. Keep tweaking until you get it right. As you do you will start to notice when something doesn't feel right right away and you can eliminate it quickly. Once you get into that flow of the life you want it will get easier and easier to maintain that.

You are important and you are here to experience what you want. You and only you have the power to have that life you want so use it! Don't stand in the way of your happiness! 

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Here's The Low Down On Past Lives

Here is some information about past lives to help give you some clarity and help you in this present life. 

We all have had many past lives. We have all been both male and female, many ethnicities, and gay, straight etc. We choose what we are in each life by what will help us most with what we need in that life. 

Also where we start out depends on where we left off last in our last life which is what we always resonate to when we start our next life. No matter what we always start off energetically where we left off last time. 

So for instance if you are born into an abusive situation in this life it's because in the last life you were choosing to abuse yourself in some form. Nothing ever just happens to us, we attract it because of our choices. The good news is we can always change our choices to attract better!

We cannot remember our past lives while on earth because it would be way too much for us to remember all at once and would distract us from the life we are in now. 

We all have lived hundreds of lives and have been through many things so remembering all that at once would be confusing and would distract us from what we are supposed to learn. It's hard enough keeping track of this life, imagine having information for hundreds of lives all at once? That would be very daunting!

Sometimes during life we will get a flash of a past life. This only happens if it's important and will help you in the current life you are in. For instance in this life you may have a strong fear of choking and then you find out you were choked to death in a previous life. This can help you to let go of that fear and realize that fear is left over from a past life and it's over now and you can let that go. 

The life we are in now is what matters the most and what we need to concentrate on. So we don't want to be distracted by meaningless things from our past lives. 

But getting information on patterns we are still in from past lives can be so helpful in this life. Knowing why and when they started can sometimes be enough in itself to finally stop the pattern.

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Once we cross over, we will remember all of our lives and everyone in them again. It will be like no time has passed. We usually incarnate with the same souls over and over but in different forms. So for instance in one life a soul may be your mother but in the next life that same soul could be your son etc. 

Our past lives are over so while we are on earth there is no need to remember them for the most part other than what can help us in this present life. 

Sometimes we may have some fears stuck from them that stay with us and hold us back so moving forward with that can be so freeing! 

All of our past lives have molded us to who we are now. We learned from our past lives and that's what helped to make us who we are today. 

After each life we take our knowledge and growth with us but leave the rest behind. Only our spirit, soul, and our subconscious come with us each time. Our spirit is our soul, our subconscious is everything except our body that goes with us to the other side and to earth each time.

Sometimes when we hear about something from the past and feel very connected to it, it could mean we are picking up on something from a past life. When I was in second grade we were studying Egypt and hieroglyphics. 

I was very interested in it which I usually wasn't interested in anything else in school at that time. I found out later that in one of my lives I studied in a pyramid school in Egypt. So that intense eagerness to learn everything about Egypt at the time makes sense now. 

So when you have that strong connection to something it's very possible it's from a past life. So love everything you have been through in all your lives because that is what makes you who you are now. 

Now focus on making this life even better so you can start off in an even better place next time around. It is all on your control so make this life great! 

How To Make Choices That Create The Life You Actually Want

It's most often the little choices you don't even think about that are affecting your life the most. So many are creating a life they don't want without realizing they are doing it. Here is how to change that. 

Our choices create our life not our heart or our thoughts. Our thoughts help us think about what we want to create but our physical action choices are what actually create our life.

You can think about making nachos but they will not just appear until you actually take the actions to make or buy them. Physical choices create physical circumstances. 

I want to give some examples of choices that can create your life without intending to. 

So let's say you are in a relationship with someone that is treating you bad. This can be in any form from not respecting you or your time to full fledged abuse or anywhere in between. 

When you continue to allow it and stay in that relationship you are telling the universe that's what you want and more situations like that will come into your life. But if you cut the relationship off at the first red flag you are showing the universe you don't accept or allow that in your life and you will not attract more of that. 

What you are allowing in your life is how you are showing the universe you want more of. Most people don't realize this and continue suffering through and more and more of what they don't want shows up. They tell themselves "If I just suffer through a little longer hopefully it will get better." But it's only by changing your actions to not allow that anymore is what will make it better. 

Suffering through something just attracts more things in your life to suffer through. Through your choices you are telling the universe that you like suffering through things so the universe says "As you wish" and sends more things for you to suffer through your way. You have free will and only you can create your life so use it to your advantage! 

It's important to be really clear about your boundaries. Know what you won't allow and be strong and stick to that so you don't let any of that energy start to creep in your life. Once it creeps in then more and more will pile on until you stop it. Suffering through something or continuing to struggle through only attracts more of that into your life. 

Every single thing in your life now you created by your choices. Knowing that is so powerful because once you realize that you can make choices to create what you do want instead.

It's important to really dissect all the choices you are making to make sure the consequences are what you do want in your life. 

If there is something or someone in your life you aren’t happy with, start taking steps to change that. There is always a way. Being a martyr and suffering through only attracts more misery to your life. Start creating your life how you want! 

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To get to the root of your issues really look at the energy of your choices. Are you doing anything out of obligation? Any obligation is like poison and will always get you off of your path. Really assert your control over your life and start working towards cutting out what you don't want and adding more of what you do want. 

The energy behind the choices you make is key. So let's say you want more peace in your life. If you don't have that now that means you are making choices that are the opposite of peace. So perhaps you are choosing to engage with people that aren't peaceful or you aren't allowing time for yourself to have some peace and unwind or ate piling too much on your plate etc. 

So look at where you aren't happy in life and know you have the power to make those changes to create what you do want. Your life is like clay, mold it how you want.

What are you suffering through or allowing in your life that you don't want? Start cutting out things that have the energy you don't want and start adding things that do have the energy you want. 

Don't just suffer through and get by, you don't have to do that! Create that happiness in your life, you are the only one that can do that! 

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7 Things To Do To Help Your Self Esteem

1. Don't compare yourself to others

We all started this life at a different point in our journey. Comparing yourself to anyone else is like comparing apples and oranges so don't torture yourself like that. You can use others to help motivate you to go further but never compare where you are to where someone else is, there is no comparison. 

2. Make small goals

If you make huge goals and never reach them that takes a toll on your self esteem.  Break your goals down into more manageable ones. The more you reach a goal you set for yourself, the better your self esteem will get. 

Don't set yourself up for failure with an unreachable goal. Know you can do anything you want to but start with a little at a time. As you keep conquering all your goals your self esteem will rise. 

3. Make yourself a priority 

If you put yourself last, that is telling yourself and the universe that you are not important. Make yourself important! Know that you deserve to be put first and take actions that show that! 

If you put yourself last you will attract others that put you last as well. So take care of yourself and know that you are worthy of that! 

4. Let go of negative self talk

The more you talk down to and about yourself, the more you start to believe it. It can take time and effort to dig yourself out of that hole if this pattern has gone on for a while. 

The first step is to be aware and notice when you are talking or thinking down about yourself and stop yourself and redirect your thought. If you keep catching and stopping yourself it will get less and less overtime. 

Next, purposely start talking and thinking good about yourself. Focus on your great qualities and constantly remind yourself of them. Replace those negative thoughts with positive ones and overtime your self esteem will increase. 

5. Forgive yourself for past mistakes 

This is a huge one that most people are guilty of. We all make mistakes, that is how we learn. Don't punish yourself forever for a mistake you made. You are not your mistakes! 

Every mistake is a gift and teaches us something. Take the knowledge you learned but leave the rest behind. Forgive yourself so you can move forward. Start with where you are now and move forward. Punishing yourself will only keep you stuck and make your self esteem worse. 

6. Focus on change

Anything you are not happy about, start focusing on changing it going forward. Create your life how you want to. Your life is like clay, you have the power to mold it how you want to. 

Don't allow yourself to stay stuck in circumstances you don't want that never helps your self esteem. Show yourself how great you really are by creating the life you really want. You have all the power in the world but you must use it! 

Don't allow yourself to wallow in what's wrong, start taking steps to correct it! Even just one small step towards making positive changes can make you feel so much better. The more you tailor your life to what you want, the better your self esteem will be. Show yourself how much power you really have over your life and take control. 

When things feel off listen to yourself and change them. You never have to stay stuck in something you don't want. If you need help moving forward in any area of your life I have lots of reading, clearing, and coaching choices available to help you with where you are now. All the choices are here:

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7. See yourself through others eyes

We all can be our worst critics. Take some time to really see yourself through the eyes of those that love you, even through your pets eyes. We can see everything wrong when we look through our own eyes, but those that love us focus on everything that is right. 

Something that seems horrible to you is usually not even something someone that loves you even notices! So start seeing yourself through the eyes of love instead of the eyes of criticism and build on that! Love yourself and know you are amazing! 

Know that you are perfect how you are. Your soul has been refined over many lives and has been through a lot. Celebrate all you have endured and how strong you are. 

Believe in yourself and know you are already amazing. If you knew the full story of all your lives you would worship yourself for all you have accomplished. So see the bigger picture and start worshiping yourself today and know you are worthy! You are amazing right now, know that and can keep building on that! 

How To Remove Drama From Your Life

Drama can be annoying and distracting and is not a productive energy to have in your life. It can be frustrating and can feel like there is no way out sometimes. The good news is that as in everything in your life you do have full control over it. Here is how to take control and cut drama out of your life.

The first thing is to know that if there is ongoing drama, you are allowing and attracting it into your life most likely without realizing it. So look into who brings drama into your life repeatedly. Know that if they keep doing it that you are allowing it. 

If you don't want drama you need to energetically starve that situation. That means not talk about it with that person and just not allow it in your life period. Don't give it the time of day.

A lot of times this calls for cutting people out of our lives no matter who they are. Remember this drama is distracting you from your purpose so it's important to not be around it for your growth and in order to move forward in life. 

Just the act of engaging in someone's drama will actually attract more drama into your life which will become a vicious cycle. You must stop it at the roots. 

Boundaries are so important and need to be upheld firmly. Be strong that you will not allow any drama into your life. As you eliminate it and show the universe you don’t want it then you will stop attracting it. Really look at any situations in your life that have drama and chaos. Start actively working on changing those situations and know you have full control to do so. 

Purposely add more peace into your life. More peace will attract more peace and is an antidote for drama. More drama and chaos will only attract more of the same. By allowing it in your life in any form you are giving an open invitation for it to creep into every part of your life. 

Be very vigilant with what you allow in all areas of your life. Get out of any toxic relationships that will always bring drama in your life and keep you stuck. If drama is in your life you are attracting it with your choices so really look at all your choices. Do you stay in a toxic work environment? In a toxic relationship? Keep a toxic friend in your life? 

Really make those strong choices to get that out of your life. It's not always easy but if you want to live your purpose and have a good life it is necessary. Everyone should have peace! If you don't, really work on changes in your life to change that! From now on don't allow it period! Energetically starve and dramatic situations!

This next step can be hard for some but it's very important. If you have lots of drama in your life look deep at yourself and ask what you are getting out of it. For some they love the drama and attention so they keep allowing it in their lives. Some are afraid to move forward and do what they need to do so they attract drama to keep them distracted and have an excuse to not move forward. Really look deep because if this is a pattern you are getting something out of it. This can be hard for some to admit but doing so will cause a big breakthrough so be willing to do so. 

No matter what the root is, drama is never healthy and always blocks you from your purpose and moving forward. So really be honest with yourself and ask yourself "What am I getting out of drama?" Really look into and work through that so you can remove that obstacle from your life. 

Whatever the reason you are attracting this drama in your life focusing on yourself and your purpose can help push you forward through that roadblock. If you don't know your purpose I can find out for you in a Soul Realignment Reading And Clearing. That info is here: 

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But overall focus on moving forward in your life and creating the life you want. Don't let drama distract you and take you off of your path. Know that you can create a drama free life but you have to be in control of it and not engage with or allow it in your life. Be strong and don't let drama keep you off of your path! 

How To Navigate This World As An Internal Person

If you are internal here is some help on how to not only cope with that but to use it to your advantage.

First of all, if you are more internal than external, know that nothing is wrong with you! Some of us are created internal and some are created external. Neither is better or worse it just is. So many internal people think something is wrong with them but that is not the case at all! 

Being internal just means that you learn from your experiences from the inside out. You always need alone time to process anything that happened. You need to be alone with your thoughts in order to really process and evaluate things. Too much interaction can frazzle you and not allow you to take in or process anything in your life which can feel very overwhelming. 

Those that are external, process and evaluate things by being around others and talking with them. They need to have interaction in order to process. They are able to learn about themselves better by seeing it through someone's else's perspective and talking it out. Whereas an internal person needs to see it through their own inner perspective. Talking it over with others too much only jumbles things up for them and confuses them. 

If you know that you are internal, know that it is your responsibility to always create enough alone time for yourself so you can process. If you don't have enough alone you will start to feel very overwhelmed and can start to shut down. It can be a very unhealthy cycle. And the same thing if you are external and have too much alone time you will shut down as well. 

Too much interaction with people without alone time to take it in and process it causes an overload for internal people. It's like pouring too much into a cup and it overflows. You need to pour only a little in at a time and drink it and fully process it before you can add more or you will just make a mess and not actually process anything. 

There is a scale of internal and external and everyone is in a different place on that scale. It's not just black and white. Some are extremely internal and need a lot more alone time, some are in the middle and some are very external and need a lot of time with others. Knowing where you are on the scale is very important so you can be sure to set up your life to what's best for you. 

A lot of people may feel they are internal but they are really external and vice versa. They just don't realize exactly how internal or external some people actually are in order to evaluate properly where they are on the scale. When someone thinks they are one and really are the other it can cause them a lot of issues in life so knowing either way is very important. 

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Once you do know where you are on the scale it's always your responsibility to give yourself the amount of interaction you need. We all need a little of both to be able to move forward and manifest what we want in life but some need so much more than others. So really give yourself exactly what you need. 

As with anything in life we are all different so you can never go by what works for someone else. You are a unique soul and need a different formula than what others do and that's a beautiful thing! 

Once you know your internal/external formula and incorporate it into your life you will feel energized and not so overwhelmed. 

So if you are internal always allow yourself a good amount of alone time. You need that as much as you need food and water. It is very important and remember you are perfect just as you are. Do not feel like something is wrong with you! Give yourself the amount of alone time you need so you can be healthy and not always feel so overwhelmed! 

If you don't give yourself the right amount if alone time or interaction time needed, you will always feel overloaded and overwhelmed and I don't want that for you! 

Never let that cup get too overfilled! Give yourself the gift of knowing how much alone time you need and apply it to your life and you will have a much happier life. 

How Decluttering Can Help Your Love Life And Finances

Are you holding on to old things you don't need anymore? Are you holding onto feelings from the past? Here's why letting go is so vital in order to get who or what you want. 

Decluttering is not just for physical items. We all have a certain amount of energetic space in our lives. When that is filled up that's it there's no room for anything else and it will keep you stuck where you are indefinitely. 

When we hold onto things, physical or emotional, that are no longer needed or relevant it prevents us from moving forward. When our space is filled with things we don't need or want it blocks something or someone we do need or want from coming in.

Having a lot of clutter can actually act as a shield when trying to find love. It puts off the energy of "I don't have room for love" and will actually block it. It's also telling the world that you haven't fully dealt with your past and there is emotional baggage you need to deal with which also repels love. 

Having a lot of clutter goes hand and hand with emotional clutter. If you have a lot of clutter it's a sign that there are things from your past you haven't fully dealt with and it's important to do so so you can move forward. After emotions are built up and undealt with on the inside, then it will start to show physically in your outer world including in the form of clutter. 

So do you have a lot of physical clutter? If so it's not only important to deal with that but also deal with the emotions that lead you there. Look back on things that you never fully dealt with. Let yourself feel those emotions deeply and fully. Really let them out and release them, holding them in is so toxic. Make room for some new wonderful emotions and let the old go. 

If you want to find a true love it's important to settle your emotional and physical home first. When you look at your home what does it say? Does it say "I'm full and I'm there's no room for anything else?" If so, really take care of it. You want your home to say "I'm ready and open for great things and people to come in"

Clutter can also block you from manifesting money and can affect every area of your life. Taking care of it can make a big difference very fast not only physically but emotionally as well.

Start by looking at things you no longer need or use. Ask yourself why you are still holding onto them in the first place. Are you holding onto them to hold onto the past in some way? Really holding onto the past will always stop you from moving forward and stop you from creating a happy life right now. The past is over but you can create even better for yourself right now! Let go not only physically but emotionally.

Some hold onto stuff they no longer need because of fear of not having enough in the future and it's an attempt to soothe that fear. The problem is doing so will block you from having enough. Because holding on is telling the universe that you won't have enough in the future so you need to hold onto it. Since we create our lives the universe will say "as you wish" and then you will make it so you not have enough in the future. 

So really look deep and start purging both physically and mentally. Let go of what you don't need any more so you can attract someone or something you want now. Leave room for someone or something wonderful to show up in your life! Make room physically and emotionally and see what happens. You will be so happy you did! 

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8 Ways To Live In The Moment And Make The Most Of Each Day

Being present in the moment is so important but not many people actually do. When we focus too much on the past it causes depression and when we focus too much on the future it causes anxiety. 

It's so important to really focus on the present moment. Here are 10 ways to start doing that:

1. Conversation focus

When in a conversation really focus intently on the other person. Don't wander off in your head about what you are gonna say next etc. Really focus on them and on hearing, them seeing them, and feeling them. Stay fully present in the conversation. 

Interact with the depth and quality you would if you knew it was your last day or the person you are interacting with’s last day. Look into the eyes of someone you are talking to and let the phone go for a minute and everything else. 

Be completely present and aware of every detail. Are they smiling? Are they hearing you? Really connect like it's the last time. If it is the last time, what would you miss about them? Appreciate whatever that is and savor it right now in this present moment while it is still here.

In that perspective of it being the last time what doesn't matter falls away and you can really get to the core. Always think about every moment possibly being your last.

2. What would you do differently if this was your last day? 

We tend to get so used to and take for granted so much. In an instant it all could be taken away. 

Take each breath like it could be your last. Make it a deep breath and savor and relish in it. Feel it expanding your lungs and how it's sustaining you and keeping you alive. Feel how it is feeding and nurturing your body with the oxygen it needs.

Really think about what you would do differently if you knew this was your last day.

Would you hold onto that hug with your loved one a little longer? 

Would you say something you have been holding back? 

Would that stupid argument matter?

Really focus on letting go of what doesn't matter and focus more on what does matter and do it very purposely. 

3. Really be present when eating

So many of us are in a rush and eat fast which can cause a lot of issues. Take time to savor each bite of food. Eat slowly and really taste it. Appreciate it like you were starving for a while and finally got food. Cherish it like it was your last bite of food ever. 

The same with drinking. Really savor that sip of water like you were in the desert and were so thirsty. Enjoy it and appreciate it! really be present!

4. Pet love

If you have a pet focus on being even more present with them. Pet your pet and really feel that soft fur cherish it. Be extra present like it was the last time. Let the rest of the world fade away for that moment and zone in on the connection you have. 

Try to feel what they are feeling and sense what they need. Work on connecting on an even deeper level. Don't let yourself get distracted, really be present with them. 

5. Beauty focus

We are all surrounded by so much beauty but tend to overlook it and not really appreciate like we should. Look at the beautiful colors all around you. Look at your loved ones face. If your sight went away would you remember every detail stored in your mind to love forever?

Look at all the beauty there is in nature. Enjoy that tree or flower on a deeper level and really appreciate it. 

6. Zone in

Zone in on things purposely. Zone in on your heartbeat or your partner's heartbeat. Zone in on your breathing. Zone in on every feeling. 

Sometimes just really zoning in on a pain you have and listening to it will help it go away.  So instead of trying to avoid the pain,, zone in on it and really listen to it. Pain is always a sign to get your attention and to let you know you need to make some changes so really listen to it. 

7. Listen 

Really take the time to listen deeply. Listen to your loved ones talk, or music, or even silence. Whatever you hear connect deeper with it. 

8. Smell 

Really use your sense of smell and connect deeper with it. Be present and really take in what you smell around you on a deeper level. What dies that smell evoke in you? Does it bring back a memory? 

At first when you are trying to be more present your mind will wander but as you catch yourself and bring yourself back into the present moment it will start to happen more naturally. 

You will find a sense of peace and mental clarity from being in each moment as it's happening. So many people miss very important moments because they aren't focusing on the present moment. 

The past already happened and focusing on it only hinders moving forward. And the future moments you will give your full focus then. Don't let anything slip by! We only ever have the now, so make the most of it and enjoy it!  

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Being Afraid To Be Alone Can Hurt Your Life Including Your Love Life. Here's How To Fix It.

Are you afraid to be alone with yourself? Here's why and how to fix and move past that so you can have a happier life. 

Is it extra hard for you when you are alone? Do you crawl out of your skin and try to fill your space with someone else as soon as possible just to cope? Doing this is a sign that something is wrong. This happens when you are not fully dealing with something from your past or your insecurities. 

That fear is because if you are alone you can't be distracted from your thoughts and are forced to face what you need to face. Some alone time is important for everyone.  Some need a lot of alone time and some need less but either way it's important to be able to sit with yourself alone and feel that peace. Some people actually can't manifest anything if they don't have enough alone time to process. So being okay with being alone is a very important thing to work on. 

By not facing what you need to face, it will only get worse and start to give you more and more anxiety and then eventually cause physical issues. Know that you can face anything! Not facing it actually is much harder in the long run. 

Once you can get rid of what's holding you back from being okay alone, it will help other areas of your life as well. Facing that fear may seem scary but in doing so you can eliminate that constant fear and can move forward in your life. 

The first step is to discover what it is that you are afraid of facing. Take some time alone with no distractions and really pay attention. What comes up for you? What are you afraid will come up? What are you running from? What feelings come up? Do you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel like jumping out of your skin? Sink more into those feelings and let yourself feel them fully so you can go deeper and work through it. 

When that jumpy feeling comes, explore it, feel it, really go deep with it. You can't let go of something you don't fully acknowledge first. Sometimes even just feeling the full magnitude of it can help. 

Avoiding it just makes it into a bigger issue than it is and makes it feel unbearable. Once you allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are afraid to face then it doesn't have that power over you anymore.

I promise that in the long run facing it is much less painful than continuing to suppress and run from it. No one wants to run in fear for the rest of their lives. And it is guaranteed to get worse over time and cause anxiety and issues in all areas of your life. 

The longer you sit with it and feel it, the better and better it will feel. Notice any thoughts and feelings that come up and let them be okay. Feel all of it deeply and fully, acknowledge it, then let it go. 

Depending on how much you have been ignoring this process could take time and will unfold in layers. Just be patient with yourself and let each issue unfold as it does. 

Being able to be alone with yourself can also help you to attract love. If you want to be alone with yourself others will as well. If you are afraid to be alone with yourself, that energy is out there and will actually repel love from you. 

Forgiveness is a big part of this as well. Forgive yourself and forgive others. In our many lives we have all made the worst mistakes one can make. Mistakes are how our soul learns. 

Don't hold onto guilt. Take what you learned and move forward. In the whole scheme of things learning from it is all that matters. Don't let one choice define you or hold you back from moving forward. 

Ask yourself these questions: What or who are you allowing in your life that isn't good for you? What are you settling with or just putting up with? What are you afraid of? Facing these things and making changes will make a huge difference in your life. 

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So if you are afraid to be alone that is blocking you from moving forward and always will until you face it. So work on these things and take back your power! Love being alone with yourself and create a much better life! Love you and others will as well! 

7 Things To Do To Attract Someone That Treats You Right

Know that who you attract is always because of you and your choices. So here is how to make the choices to attract someone that treats you right this time. 

1. Stop doing anything out of obligation.

   Obligation will always attract more things you don't want into your life. Our choices create our life so by doing something out of obligation you are telling the universe that's what you want and more of that will come to you. 

   Say no when you don't want to do something. Value what you really want and others will as well. 

2. Make time for yourself

Be sure you are making just time for you. When you make time for you others will as well. Value your time and others will as well. Your time is important so make choices that reflect that!

3. Really take care of yourself 

Take care of you! This goes for every way including health wise, emotionally, physically etc. Anything you neglect for you will attract others that neglect you as well. 

Treat yourself like gold to attract someone that treats you like gold. How others treat you will be directly reflected in how you are treating yourself and others. 

So look deeply into how you are treating yourself and others. Are you neglecting yourself? Are you neglecting anyone in your life? Really look deep into that. Changing those choices will make a huge difference in who you attract into your life.

4. Know your worth 

Know that you deserve only the best. Show that through the choices you make and especially in who you let around you. Don't accept anyone into your life that treats you less than you want. Know ahead of time what you will and won't allow and stand strong in that. 

By eliminating someone at the first sign of not treating you right you show the universe you don't want that and won't attract any more that treat you that way. Show the universe what you want by eliminating anything or anyone you don't really want that's in your life now. 

5. Always speak up and be heard

Don't hold things in or hold back how you really feel. Doing so will only attract those that may not listen to you or value your opinion. Feel free to say how you feel. Holding it in only causes way worse problems down the line. 

6. Look back on people in your past

Look back on those you have had in your life with qualities you didn't like. Look at how you were treating yourself and or others at that time. See what caused you to attract them so you can change that going forward. 

Look at the energy of how they were treating you then look how you were treating yourself or others in the same way at that time. Being clear on what caused you to attract the wrong people in the past makes it so much easier to not continue that going forward! 

7. Put yourself first

If you are putting yourself last the person you attract will do the same. Putting yourself first gives you more strength and energy to give to others as well. If you are depleted yourself you are no good to anyone else. Put yourself at the top of the list so you can attract someone who will put you first as well. 

Overall look at how you are treating yourself and others. Make yourself a priority and attract someone that treats you right this time! 

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5 Things That Will Block You From Manifesting What You Want

When manifesting it's not only important to work on that manifesting process right but also to be sure you aren't sabotaging it without realizing it! The following are the 5 most common manifesting blockers. 

1. Not really wanting what you are trying to manifest

This may seem obvious but we tend to justify and convince ourselves we want something when we really don't. It could be that society makes us think we want it or we are influenced by those around us etc. 

So really be sure this is something you want and that it is right for you and your soul. If it goes against your purpose and who you are at soul level, you won't be able to manifest it no matter how hard you try. 

So really be thoughtful about what you really want and don't waste time working on manifesting the wrong thing. If you don't know your purpose gift or who you are at soul level yet you can find out here: 

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2. Procrastination 

If you are procrastinating on anything in any area of your life that energy will also block your manifesting process. It may not have anything to do with what you want to manifest but it will block you anyway. 

We are whole beings and we manifest with all areas of our lives at once. If one area of your life is off or ignored it will always affect your manifesting. 

So really take a look at things you have been putting off and get them done. Don't put anything off or procrastinate on anything. Even when not manifesting procrastination will always block you from moving forward. 

Always work on pushing through and don't allow procrastination to creep into your life! It is always a life halter and keeps you stuck in areas that may have nothing to do with what you are actually procrastinating on. 

Really think about what you have been putting off till later and get it done now. Once you do your manifesting process will speed up a lot!

3. Not getting things fixed or replaced

During your manifesting process as you start to change vibrations to match the new thing you want, things will break and stop working. Those things can not come with you to the next vibrational level and must be fixed, repaired, thrown out, or updated in order to reach your manifesting goal. 

When this happens it usually means you are close to reaching your goal. When I am manifesting I always get excited when something breaks because I know I'm close! There will always be things that will go wrong right before you reach your goal and that is a good thing. Take care of it all as quickly as possible so you can reach your manifesting goal.

Delaying fixing, repairing, or updating anything will only cause more mishaps and distractions to come and block your manifesting. So be sure to take care of things as soon as possible so you don't get stuck in the dissonance.  

Take care of everything swiftly so you can move past it towards your manifesting goal! Not doing so will keep you in that yucky dissonance period indefinitely so it's very much worth it to take care of everything fast! 

4. Not being on same page with your partner

This one can be frustrating. If you are married or in a partnership and you both want different things it will block both of you from manifesting.  So when working on manifesting at the same time as your partner (spouse or business partner) really be sure you both want the sane thing and are very clear about what each of you wants. 

The good part about manifesting together is if you both truly are on the same page and work together, it can speed up the manifesting process. Two manifesting forces working together instead of just one is very powerful!

5. Working against your own blueprint 

Without realizing it so many actually work against their own personal manifesting blueprint. This one can be tricky if you don't know your manifesting code. We all have a unique way that we manifest and if even just one of those things is off it can block manifesting. 

It's so important to work with how you manifest only. There is no one size fits all with manifesting. We are all unique and manifest differently. What works for one person will not work for another. So really work on manifesting using your personal blueprint not anyone else's. 

More focus on the elements of your manifesting blueprint will bring great results. Also look into areas where you may be doing the opposite of your blueprint as well. Sometimes just fixing one thing is all you need to reach your goal immediately! 

So be really sure to follow your manifesting blueprint very closely and check your actions often to be sure you aren't blocking your manifesting without realizing it! If you don't know your personal manifesting code yet I can do that for you in a Manifesting Blueprint Reading. The info on that is here: 

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So overall pay attention to what is blocking your manifesting process. Sometimes you may be doing everything right towards manifesting but just one of these things is blocking you. So pay attention to avoid these most common manifesting blockers! Now go manifest what you want! 

How To Set Clear Intentions So You Can Get What You Really Want

Are you sending out mixed messages about what you want? Most people tend to send a lot of mixed messages out into the universe without even realizing it. This doesn't get you what you want and only gives you more of what you don't want. 

Here is how to really make what you want clear so you can get what you want:

First of all it's important to be clear and specific with what you do want. It's okay to change and refine what you want as you go and learn but you need to start somewhere. Know that you can create exactly what you want but that starts with knowing what you want first. You can start small but you must start.

You can have some larger intentions for overtime but also have some that are smaller goals that you can achieve in less time. Don't make your goal so big that you overwhelm and disappoint yourself and just give up. Big goals are always achieved step by step so break it up into one manageable step at a time. But you can always keep the bigger picture in mind.

The big secret to setting intentions is that your actions show your intentions much louder than anything else. Your thoughts are just that thoughts. Your thoughts help you to try on an idea so to speak before you actually put it in action. 

What you actually do by taking action is what sends out what you want to the universe. So for instance if you stay in a bad relationship the action of staying is telling the universe that's what you want and more of that will be sent back to you. You can think all day long about getting out of the relationship but by staying in it that action is what speaks the loudest. 

You can think about where you want to go tonight. In your mind you could think about many different places but does thinking actually get you there? After thinking about it and choosing it's the action of getting in the car or walking there etc. that makes it happen. Just thinking about it or saying what you want isn't really putting that signal out there, you must be showing what you want with your actions. 

The same thing with a job, no matter how much you think about how you hate your job staying and not trying and taking steps towards something different says that is exactly what you want. 

We all have free will so even if we are choosing to do something horrible for us the universe will help us do what we want. We are in control. 

So look closely at your actions. What are you allowing in your life that you don't really want? What are you just dealing with or accepting? 

Our spirit guides can help us but we must be clear with them so they can help us in a way that we really want. If we aren't clear then we get unclear and confusing results back which is why so many people feel stuck.

Besides our spirit guides we can also attain white and blue lights. These lights are beings that help us to send our signal out so we can get back what we want. The more intentional and clear we are with what we want and show that we want it with actions, the more of these lights we gain. 

Once we get 30 white lights we can then start gaining blue lights. Blue lights are like a strong satellite compared to the white lights which are more like an antenna. The more of those lights you have, the more of what you want starts showing up in your life. 

For instance you may start thinking about wanting to do something and boom it pops up in your life somehow or a friend mentions it etc. Those synchronicities happen more and more the more lights you have. Eventually you become more in sync and things manifest quickly with practice and having the maximum amount of lights helping you behind the scenes. 

If you are interested to know how many lights you have so you can see how good your signal is working and how much more you need to work on it or not, I tell you more about that and find out your exact numbers as part of a Soul Realignment Reading And Clearing. That info is here: 

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I find it is very helpful to keep a journal of what you want. Writing is an action and it helps to give it more power than just thoughts. You can write down exactly how you want your day to go step by step or an intention you want to complete in a week or ten years. 

Exactly how you format your journal is up to you. Do what feels right to. Be okay with changing it over time if something feels even better and learn and edit as you go. You can write in it every day or once a week, do what feels best to you. The more you do it and the more clear you are the better! 

The writing also helps you to keep track. It's funny after we achieve a goal our mind then goes to the next one so sometimes we can almost miss the fact that we actually achieved it. So looking back at the past goals there in writing can show you how far you really have come. 

You can also write out possible actions you can take to get to each goal. You can analyze what your actions are showing that you want now compared to what you actually want and work on how to change that. 

This is for you so create it how you want. Start setting those clear intentions and then showing with action and certainty what you want so you can have it! We are here to create what we want, not just settle and stay with what we don't want.

As you keep setting intentions and achieving them it gives you so much momentum and makes it easier and easier each time to get what you want. Once you know how to set and send intentions, you start to know with confidence that you can always achieve them which gives you even more power to do so. 

So the big question is what do you want? Set those intentions and achieve them! Don't wait any longer, start now! 

How To Get Out Of The Overthinking Trap

Do you overthink to a point that it is keeping you stuck and making you anxious? Are you ready to get free from that pattern? Here's how to get out of the overthinking trap and get on with your life!

At root cause, overthinking stems from worry and fear. It's because of past issues that we think we made the wrong choice and don't want to repeat it. It's a protection we use to not get in a negative situation again. 

The problem is overthinking causes more negative situations of its own and can keep you stuck. When we focus too much on what could go wrong in the future, we only set ourselves up for failure. Instead change your focus to what you do want to create in your life. You have the full power to create what you want in your life so focus on what you do want, not scenarios of what could go wrong over and over.  

Our first thoughts on a situation are usually the right ones so trust your gut. If you keep overthinking you just talk yourself out of what was right to begin with. 

So many end up in a trap of over thinking or over studying to get it perfect. That becomes never ending because no matter what you will never feel it's perfect. Work on letting go of the need to be perfect. Even if you did everything perfect you still wouldn't think it was perfect. The cure is to just start doing and stop thinking or researching. You learn more by actually doing. 

Even if you make the "wrong" choice you still learn valuable information from it. But if you keep overthinking and not making any choice at all, you learn nothing and can't move forward at all. We are here on earth to experience ourselves and by overthinking and not moving forward you can't do that. 

The first step to stop this pattern is to start catching yourself when you are over thinking. As you consciously notice it more and more and see how much you are doing it, it will help you to correct it. So first just start paying attention to when you do it and keep a log of the situation when you do it.

Just having more of a conscious idea of how much and when you do it is so helpful to stop it. So at first just really be aware of when and why you do it. Look back at the log and just really let yourself be aware of it.

After you are really aware of it, next it's important to work on trusting yourself and your choices. Deep down over thinking just means you don't trust yourself to make the right choice. 

Think about why you don't trust yourself. Did you make a wrong choice in the past that you are still punishing yourself for? Instead of punishing yourself and affecting your whole future because of it focus on what you learned from making that choice. You gained much more than you realize from that so really look deeper into the benefits and let yourself off the hook for the negative consequences.

Are you going to let that choice stop you from creating your future completely? If you do that you are letting that choice not only give you the original negative consequences but now a lifetime of consequences as well. Don't let doubt and fear stop you from fully living your experience here on earth. 

If you are over thinking a lot it means that deep down you don't trust your decisions and aren't fully stepping into your true self. Get to the root of that and why you don't trust yourself. Focus on yourself and the positive parts of yourself. Work on trusting yourself and knowing you are capable of choosing. 

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You are the only one that can make a choice for you so trust yourself. Let yourself know that you can't make a wrong choice because even one you think is wrong will help you in the long run. 

We aren't here to always make the right choice, we are here to express ourselves and learn who we are. If we never make a choice wrong or right we can't do what we are here for. Wrong choices can help us even more than right ones because we can learn what we don't want to do for the future. The only wrong choice is not making one at all and staying stuck. 

So really work on re-framing in your mind what a wrong choice is. Let go of the "wrong" and know that a choice is a choice and you will learn from either. Know that you can trust yourself to make a good choice for you without analyzing it forever. 

Some of the best choices for our lives need to happen immediately. Don't let yourself miss out on a great opportunity because you needed to overthink. Trust your first instincts and go for it. Think about what is the worst that could happen if you do make the wrong choice? Really think about how wrong choices can actually lead to much better for you in the long run. 

After you are fully aware of your pattern and have re-framed your thinking about so called wrong choices, now it's time to start making choices quickly and confidently. As you start making choices without overthinking you will start to trust yourself and your intuition more and more but you have to start actually doing and making those choices. That's the only way to get out of it. 

I know in the human perspective here on earth everything can seem so hard sometimes. But the bigger picture is earth is just a fraction of our existence. It's like going away to college. Enjoy it and learn about yourself. 

Try to not take everything so seriously. Don't let one choice make or break you. There is always another choice to make and an opportunity to change your mind if needed. 

Let your choices teach you and make you better each time. Don't let fear of choices stop you from creating the life you want! Starting today leave that pattern that is making things harder for you behind! 

Why Adapting Can Actually Hold You Back

What are you adapting to in your life? Yes adapting is an important part of life. We need to adapt when things don't go as planned or to a new situation but sometimes adapting can actually be negative for us. Here is how it can be negative and how to avoid that. 

It's important to not adapt to things that keep us stuck in what we don't want. For instance if you are in a bad relationship, just adapting to it and making it a new normal is harmful for you. Don't allow yourself to adapt to negative situations and just stay there. Instead use your energy to make changes and get out. There are always changes you can make.

Another common one is those adapting to jobs they hate. Yes you need a job but instead of just resigning to the fact that you hate your job and just living with it, start towards changes. You could start classes or training towards something you would love to do or you could start looking for something else. Even small changes in the right direction will make you feel better. 

So look into your life closely what have you adapted to? Are there things you would be better off removing from your life, not just adapting to? 

Look at adaptation as a tool to survive in certain emergency situations. Don't overuse that tool to just be okay with staying in something you don't want and staying stuck. 

We all have many paths and choices open to us but sometimes our adapting energy can make us feel like this is our only choice. Don't get comfortable in a place you don't want to be. 

Feel that you don't like it and use that to push yourself to get out of that situation. Don't use adapting as a crutch to make you okay with staying in a situation you aren't okay with. 

You can change so many situations with just a little effort so don't lie to yourself and convince yourself that is your only option. Yes it may take some work and effort and change can be scary but it seems to me staying stuck where you aren't happy is a whole lot more scary. 

When a pain comes up or there is something you don't like, that's always a sign to do something different and make changes not to just adapt to it and live with it. If you have a pain you don't want to learn to live with it or just put a bandaid on it or do something for the symptoms, you want to get to the root of the problem and fix it. 

So many of us just adapt and let the pain keep going. Always remember there is always a way to make changes. We have all got so used to adapting but let's now get used to changing our circumstances instead! 

First look at what you are adapting to in your life. What or who don't you want but are just adapting to? What pain are you just living with? Really look deep and start with one area to start some changes to get out of that situation. A lot of times just making changes in one area will help other areas as well.

We are all in control of our lives so get back in the driver's seat and turn off cruise control! Know that you have the full power to make changes and that you don't have to just adapt and muddle through! 

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So next time a situation comes up think twice before you just adapt to it and numb the pain. Use that pain to push yourself to make changes instead. Pain, anxiety, depression, no sleep, etc is always a sign that some changes need to be made. Listen to those signs, don't ignore them and just live with it! 

Adapting to things consistently uses a lot of energy and takes that energy away from where you would really like to use it. So from now use your adapting energy for emergencies only. Don't allow yourself to just adapt to anything or anyone you really don't want in your life! 

7 Most Common Reasons People Stay Stuck And How To Overcome It!

Working with my clients I have found the following are the 7 most common reasons people tend to get stuck. Here is what they are and how to overcome them.

1. They have suppressed a lot from the past that they never dealt with

When someone doesn't fully deal with things it weighs them down, causes them to go to anger, depression, and anxiety. This happens because that weight inside of them and all the work and energy it takes to ignore and stuff it down, depletes adaptation energy which is what helps us deal with things. 

If you are using all of your energy suppressing the past you have none left to handle even the easiest everyday situations let alone move forward. It's so important to deal with, feel, fully process, and let go of anything you are holding onto. It's the only way to move forward. If you don't you may feel like you are moving forward but then all of the sudden get pulled right back because that chain from the past is still tied to you. Free yourself from it and move forward for good! 

2. They are lying to themselves and justifying something that isn't right for them

People can tend to keep themselves stuck bY justifying it to themselves. They will tell themselves they don't have a choice or they have to or that it's for the kids etc. When parents stay stuck for the sake of the kids it hurts them and the kids. It teaches the kids that they have to sacrifice and can't be happy and starts a generation pattern that continues. Show them that their happiness matters by not living in unhappiness yourself. 

It could be anything from staying in a relationship they don't want, to thinking they have to stay at a job they don't like. The key is to start taking steps to get out of those things. 

So many wait for a change in the person or situation to happen which most likely never will. Always go by how the person/situation is now. If you aren't happy with it, leave or make changes. 

So many waste so many years hoping someone or something will change. Start steps towards what you want but know it's your choice to stay stuck or not! It may not be easy but you can make new choices and get out no matter what!

3. Not making decisions out of fear

So many are afraid to make a new choice out of fear usually fear of failure or change itself. In not making a choice at all you are assured to never move forward. And even if it doesn't work out you have learned from it and are still better off.

Just make a decision and know you can always make a different decision after if it's not right but no matter what, make a decision. You can't move forward if you stay stuck in indecision. As you start making choices it gets easier and easier and makes what you do want clearer and clearer. 

If you are afraid of change know that change equals moving forward and progress. It is a good thing. We can never grow without change. No change will always equal being stuck. Embrace change and be excited about it! It's the only way forward! 

4. Listening to what other people want for them instead of what they want

So many follow what others want for them for many different reasons. The problem is we are here on earth solely to express ourselves so doing what others want us to actually takes us off of our path. This will always cause us issues down the line.

This frequently happens when people do what their parents wanted them to. They do it and feel unfulfilled and always feel stuck. That's because they aren't expressing themselves and are farther and farther away from who they really are. You can never be happy that way no matter what. 

Really get clear with what you want and be sure you aren't doing anything you don't want to for the sake of others. Express yourself, don't give up your happiness and your life path. It's your life, you are here for you! The happier you are the happier those around you will be. Stand firm in who you are! 

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5. They don't trust their instincts and ignore red flags

This is a big one. Always trust your instincts! Don't talk yourself out of what you feel. Before something happens there are always clues and red flags. The problem is so many people ignore and or justify them. Doing this will always cause problems. 

Always address any red flags immediately and don't let them keep building up. Those are vital clues towards what is going to happen let them guide you, don't hide from them! Red flags are always a road map of what's to come! Follow those clues and save yourself a lot of trouble. Your instincts will never let you down so trust them and trust yourself! 

6. Not setting new goals

Setting new goals is always important. If you don't set any then how can you move forward? Nothing will ever just fall from the sky and happen, you need to make it happen. Setting goals and intentions is so important. 

Our spirit guides work for us and can only help us if we are clear in what we want. So be clear and intentional with what you want. Picture it and see how things will be different when you achieve it. 

If you don't set any goals you assure that none will be achieved. It's always best to work on one big goal at a time. Put all your energy into it and once you achieve it you can move on to the next. Plus a lot of times once you achieve one goal the rest will automatically fall into place. 

Too many goals at once and confusion on what you want will only create confusion and never actually reaching any of them. Start with what's most important and go from there! Being clear on what you want will help you in all areas of your life and will allow your spirit guides to help you!

7. Doubts they can achieve what they want

Don't doubt yourself! If you are inspired to do something you can achieve it! Yes it always takes effort but don't make your life less than because of self doubt. Be confident and know that you can! 

Those with self doubt can benefit by starting off with small, easier to achieve goals. As you start achieving them, your self confidence will grow and grow. You can do it, don't doubt yourself. No one ever feels confident when trying something new. New can be scary but those who achieve goals know they have to push through that fear and do it anyway. 

When it's scary that actually means there is a great change that will come with it! You can never move forward in your comfort zone! Don't doubt yourself and push through that fear! Achieving that goal is always worth it. 

Don't let these things keep you stuck. Stay aware of them and don't allow them to keep you stuck! Create the life you want! You are the artist of your life so paint it how you want! All you have to do is start and then go from there! 

How To Stop Comparing Yourself To And/Or Seeking Validation From Others

Are you constantly comparing yourself to others? Are you constantly seeking outside validation or opinions? Here's how to get your validation from within instead. 

We are all in different parts of our journey and all starting from a different place. There literally is no comparison between each other. We started this life energetically where we ended in our last life. So everyone starts off in a different place. Only compare to where you were not to anyone else! We are all apples and oranges and there is no comparison!

Comparing yourself to others only distracts you from yourself and your purpose. When you catch yourself doing that, instead put more focus back on yourself and look inward more.

You can use others as a reference point or to help spark ideas but be very vigilant that you aren't comparing yourself to others or seeking their validation. 

You can use others as a reference of what you would like to strive for and as motivation, but beating yourself up because you aren't where they are right now won't help and will only slow down your progress. Only your validation matters.

You can only see others through your perspective. From the outside everything may seem great but in reality they may be in a worse place than you realize. 

Sometimes comparing yourself to others may be a distraction tool to justify not moving forward. Going forward can be scary so sometimes we do anything we can subconsciously to justify staying stuck. 

When you stay stuck you don't have the fear of something new, but you also never have the joy and reward of moving forward. Someone who is stuck can never create a better life for themselves. There will always be some fear involved when moving forward but it's important to push through that towards your goal. 

So look deep and be sure you aren't comparing yourself to others subconsciously to justify staying stuck. That could show up as "I could never be like her, why even try." Or "She did that so well I couldn't do that well so why bother" etc.

You can never find yourself fully if you are basing your self assurance on what others do. 

At soul level we are all so different. This is a beautiful thing! If we were all the same how boring would that be? 

Often the cause of comparing and looking to others for validation is a lack of knowing your ownself. When you don't know yourself or are insecure in yourself you don't trust your own validation. 

To change that, start by focusing on what you do like about yourself. You have lots of wonderful qualities, don't hide them! Start actively working on the things you aren't happy about. 

We are always a work in progress and can always become who we want to be with action and effort. So instead of comparing and being down on yourself work on those things! Just starting to do that will give you a bigger sense of control and confidence! 

Try not to focus too much on physical aspects. Yes you want to be healthy and do what's in your control to make you feel and look good but don't get down on yourself about things you can't change about your appearance. 

We are only in the physical body for a short amount of time. We have our soul forever that is what is important. Focus on working on what you can change and let go of what you can't. Focus on working on what you can change.

Too much looking for validation from others will only bring you farther from yourself. For example an apple seeking validation from an orange. The orange may tell the apple you are too green and need to be more orange. So the apple fights and tries and does anything it can to turn orange. As the apple tries to become orange it is becoming less and less of its true self. 

At soul level the apple is an apple and needs to be proud of that. Becoming more like an orange only takes the apple off of its own path. Be more of you not someone else. 

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Our ego can also get in the way sometimes. Look deep and find out why it matters so much to you to be like others or compare yourself to them etc. In the end none of that matters. You are here on earth to express yourself! 

Be you and let go of that need for outside validation, don't let it have power over you. It's all from a different perspective and doesn't really count when it boils down to it anyway. Your perspective is what matters! Get more in tune with you and what you want! The more you are focused on and working on you, the less you will care about or seek validation from the outside. 

We all have different goals to accomplish and different reasons why. Only you can work towards them in your way. Become more you not more of somebody else. 

The key is knowing who you are. This can be tricky for some that may have been astray from themselves for a while but it's never too late to find yourself. First start by erasing other people's opinions. Focus deeper on what you feel without outside influence getting in the way. 

Think about when you get validation from others but don't believe it yourself. Do you downplay it to them? Do you say thank you but no I did horrible? So looking for validation outside yourself even if you do get it it's still not going to change the way you feel. It may be nice to hear but what's most important is for you to believe it yourself. If you don't believe it it will never matter anyway! 

Work on comparing yourself to where you were 6 months ago or 2 years ago. See your progress only, no one else's progress counts. They may have accomplished what you want to accomplish but they may have taken many lives to get there.

Most of us are way harder on ourselves than we would be on someone else. It's important to start focusing on all your accomplishments and not the so called fails. A fail is never a fail, it becomes a lesson of what to do better next time. Those lessons are so important in our growth. 

Don't be so hard on yourself, learn and move on! When you stay stuck on past "fails",  it prevents you from moving forward and just creates more "fails." Let it go and work on doing better next time. Don't allow your identity to be caught up in outside circumstances. Your identity is your soul, let that shine! 

So forget about what others think and really center in on yourself. You are living and creating your life so how you feel is what matters. You are here on earth to experience yourself as an individual. Be the best you, you can be and let go of that attachment to what others think! 

10 Ways To Keep A Relationship Strong And To Be Sure You Are In The Right One For You!

We all know relationships can be tricky but there are things you can do to give you the best outcome. It's important to know as soon as possible if a relationship isn't right for you to save you both time and pain. The following are ways to help a relationship and ways to see if the relationship isn't right for you. 

1. Communication 

Communication is so important!  Be clear and communicate your needs. Do not expect them to read your mind. Yes, that may be a fantasy of them reading your mind and doing exactly what you want without telling them but that's a sure way to never get what you want! Sometimes even hints will go unnoticed and cause frustration. 

So be clear and intentional with what you want so you can be happy. When you are happy it makes a better relationship for both of you! Don't try to hide things even if you feel it is for a good reason. That never turns out well. Always be clear and upfront with your partner. 

2. Set a time to process

Set a time each week to talk about things your partner did that you loved and things you may be hurt, sad or angry about. Speak clearly and just let them know how you feel. Doing this weekly or even at the end of each day can make a big difference in a relationship. Always start with the hard stuff and end it with what you loved or were happy about. End it on a positive note. So many times the other partner has no idea and telling them makes all the difference in the world! 

3. Don't leave things unsaid

Never hang up the phone or go to bed angry. Work things out together. You never know when it's your last moments on earth so always try to resolve everything and don't leave it hanging on a bad note. 

4. Value yourself 

No one will ever be able to value you if you don't value yourself first. This is so important. Don't allow yourself to be treated less than. If you allow it, it will only get worse. If this happens often it's time for a big change or to end things. You teach people how to treat you so the first time it happens be very clear that you will not accept it. If you allow it you are telling that person that it is okay to treat you like that. How can they respect you if you don't respect yourself? 

Don't be so afraid of losing someone that you don't stand up for yourself. If you feel that way, it is not the relationship for you. They should respect you and you shouldn't be afraid to demand that respect. 

5. Talk about your values 

Talk about the things you value early on in a relationship and always make sure you are on the same page or can reach a compromise without giving up yourself. A relationship must have two whole people. If you are giving up yourself for a relationship it can never be a true relationship. 

So be sure what's important to you is clear to your partner and vice versa. You should both want each other to be your happiest most fulfilled self. Anyone that doesn't want you to be happy will only deplete you and isn't right for you. 

6. Think often of the bigger picture

Think about how you would feel if this was your last moment on earth. Did that little fight really matter? Would you really say that snarky comment you just said? Treat your partner like it's your last day everyday. Appreciate what you have while you have it and don't let the little things bring you off course. We can get so caught up in life sometimes that we lose sight of what really matters. Make a point to always remind yourself of the bigger picture and what really matters. 

7. Don't get too comfortable

So many tend to get too comfortable or complacent in a relationship. Don't stop doing the things you did when you were dating. Don't stop doing what attracted you two to each other in the first place. Doing that is giving up in a way. Being complacent can cause issues and can lead to more and more distance between you two. 

Don't just give up, always work on things and keep things fresh and interesting. And of course always work on yourself and your personal growth as well. It is always an ongoing journey, we never reach the end. So always keep working on growing both for yourself and your relationship. 

8. Don't give up who you are

It's very important to not lose your identity in a relationship. Losing yourself will only damage you and your partner. You both need to be whole beings. Always make time for yourself! If you need to give up who you are for a relationship, it's not the right one for you. 

9. Speak up

Holding things in can be one of the most detrimental things in a relationship. You hold it in and it just builds and builds until it causes a huge issue. Holding things in can also cause mental and physical issues so it's important to get it out.

If you say how you feel in a calm way right when you feel it, you can save an explosion and big issue down the road. Your partner should always be okay with you being honest and saying how you feel. If not there is a bigger issue there. 

You should always feel like you can be you and say how you feel. If you feel like you can't, look into that and find out why. Yes sometimes it may make you a little nervous but a little nervousness is better than a big issue down the line that could possibly even end the relationship. 

10. Don't hold on to past grudges

It's important to fully work through and past things. If you hold onto the past and keep throwing it in your partners face it won't end well. Yes perhaps some trust may need to be rebuilt but you need to decide if you can live with it or not. 

If you can't work past the issue it might be time to end the relationship. In order to move forward you will have to decide if you can fully forgive or not. A relationship where you bring up the past in every fight will never go anywhere. 

So if you decide to forgive, really forgive and give a clean slate moving forward. Do not keep bringing it up. If you can't forgive, know that and move on. It will save both of you a lot of issues. 

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Empaths Here's How To Not Be Affected By Other People's Energy!

Are you an empath? Are you constantly feeling what everyone else is feeling? Is it hard for you to be in crowds or around people too much? That is not healthy for you so here is how to stop that! 

We all have control of what we absorb from other people but most don't know that. We always have control over ourselves. When we are leaving ourselves too open we can pick up on everything that's not ours which can only hinder us. 

Feeling other people's "stuff" happens when you leave yourself too open and are focused too much on others. It's important to focus more on yourself and your own life. 

Some are afraid of facing their own life so they actually subconsciously create this as a distraction. If you are constantly dealing with other people's emotions then you don't have to face your own. Don't let others distract you from facing what you need to and growing. When you are centered and living your purpose, there is no room to allow anyone else's energy in. Fill yourself up with more of you not with everyone else. 

You are here on earth to express yourself and learn who you are separate from everyone else, not to be feeling what everyone else is feeling. On the other side we are all one and can't tell where we end and where someone else begins. That is why we come to earth so we can see and learn ourselves separate from everyone else. The physical realm is the only way to do that. 

Constantly absorbing everyone else's energy and feelings only gets you off of your path and distracts you from your purpose. It can also cause mental and physical health problems. It's important to start staying in your own energy only.

If you are a medium or spiritual worker and use other people's energy to connect and worry about losing that, know that you don't ever have to envelop yourself in it and allow it in. It does not ever have to enter your field to be useful. You can just observe it from the outside without actually allowing it in. 

Picture it like you are observing a movie. You can watch it and get everything important from it without actually experiencing it. It's actually a lot more intuitive that way because you aren't clouded and distracted by feeling emotions that aren't yours. 

From now on don't allow absorbing the energy to be an option. Observe from the outside, do not allow yourself to take it in. Know that you have control and use your control. 

Here is how to gain your control. First just knowing that it is not happening to you and that you do have control over it is a very important step. Know that only you are allowing it and it cannot happen if you don't allow it. Obviously you probably don't realize you are allowing it. Nothing ever just happens to us it's all attracted to us by our choices and actions. So knowing that and feeling strong in your control is the first step. 

Next be sure to not be so focused on other people. Really put more focus into your own life and your purpose. Don't allow anyone or anything to distract you from why you are here on earth in the first place. If you need some help to focus more on yourself and still need to know your purpose I can help you with that in a Soul Realignment Reading And Clearing. The information on that is here:

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So after you are clear that you and only you have control over you and you stop so much focus on others and focus more on your life, next focus and visualize in your mind your body and your personal space. See it and know that it is yours and only yours. Not only be sure to not allow others energy in, but be sure to not give too much of your energy out or you will be depleted. When you are depleted you are no good to anyone!  Feel your own energy. Know that it is yours and only your energy is allowed. 

Visualize a protective barrier around you. Basically that barrier is holding your energy in and not allowing your energy out inappropriately.  Notice if you feel any leaks or openings in that barrier and reinforce those spots. 

Feel strong in your energy and your energy only. Know that you can accomplish all you want by just observing others energy when needed, you never have to absorb and actually live it. It is actually inappropriate to absorb other people's energy, and isn't our place to do so. It is not our business.

Be clear with your spirit guides that you don't allow others energy into your space and know that this will be so. When you need to tap into other people's energy just connect with it without allowing it in. Just observe it, don't live it! Always visualize it like a movie.

Always feeling other people's energy only holds you back. Learning to control it and focusing more on what your energy feels like will help you to grow to a higher spiritual level. Let go of all of that extra stuff bogging you and feel that relief and peace!

Once you do that you can live and achieve your purpose so much more without the weight of others holding you back and distracting you. It's time to know and relish in what your own wonderful energy feels like without it being clouded by everyone else's! 

How To Develop New Relationships During The Coronavirus Crisis

Did you just meet someone before this crisis? Have you met someone online during this crisis? It may seem hard to not be able to see them in person but it can actually help you to build a stronger relationship. Here's how to use this time to build a stronger relationship.

For new relationships the coronavirus crisis can actually be a blessing. It can really put what's important at the forefront. Since you can't see each other for the time being that takes some pressure off and you can really use this time to get to know each other on a deeper level.  

The more you are connected emotionally and mentally, the better things will be when you can see each other physically. Really take the time to get to know them and find out what makes them tick. 

Here are some topics to discuss to make sure you are on the same page and build that foundation.

-Talk about what is most important for you in a relationship. Do you need words of affirmation? Do you need physical touch? Do you need consistency? Do you need spontaneity etc. 

-Talk about ways you can calmly discuss things when an argument comes up in the future. If you have a plan in place ahead of time it will make an argument go much smoother.

-Make sure you are on the same page with your plans for the future. Do you want kids? Is marriage something you want? etc. Being clear about those things ahead of time will save a lot of issues in the future. 

-Talk about ideal future vacations and dreams of yours. You get the benefit of only a mental connection for a while, use it to your benefit. You will get to know the other person on a better level so much faster than if you could see them in person. Don't hold anything back. Get it all out of the way now so when you do see each other in person you will have an amazingly strong connection already to build on. 

‐Talk about your triggers and what really upsets you and gets under your skin. 

-Talk about some past experiences if yours that have shaped you. The more you understand each other and where the other is coming from the better. 

-Talk about what you think your best qualities are and also what qualities you think you need to work on.

Be clear with what you really want and need from someone in a relationship.  Do not expect them to read your mind or both of you will end up frustrated and disappointed. If you are clear with your needs you are much more likely to actually get what you need. 

So many wait for the other person to magically read their mind and give them what they want. Those people end up bitter and disappointed in the long run and I don't want that for anyone! 

You obviously don't want to make it all serious all the time so have some fun as well. But if you can build that better communication and foundation it will only help your relationship.  

So overall really focus on open communication and starting things off right. Really use the resources you do have available like video chat and all ways of communication to the fullest. Communication is very key for new relationships not only during this crisis period. For some relationships too much time together at first without building a solid foundation first can sour things so this break for now is to your advantage! 

Build a solid foundation now for a more solid future together. And after all absence makes the heart grow fonder. So don't let this crisis stop you from searching for love. Get excited to create an even more connected relationship! And far in the future you will always have an interesting story about when you first met so there's that! Use this crisis to your benefit and create a happy love life for yourself! 

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