Working with my clients I have found the following are the 7 most common reasons people tend to get stuck. Here is what they are and how to overcome them.
1. They have suppressed a lot from the past that they never dealt with
When someone doesn't fully deal with things it weighs them down, causes them to go to anger, depression, and anxiety. This happens because that weight inside of them and all the work and energy it takes to ignore and stuff it down, depletes adaptation energy which is what helps us deal with things.
If you are using all of your energy suppressing the past you have none left to handle even the easiest everyday situations let alone move forward. It's so important to deal with, feel, fully process, and let go of anything you are holding onto. It's the only way to move forward. If you don't you may feel like you are moving forward but then all of the sudden get pulled right back because that chain from the past is still tied to you. Free yourself from it and move forward for good!
2. They are lying to themselves and justifying something that isn't right for them
People can tend to keep themselves stuck bY justifying it to themselves. They will tell themselves they don't have a choice or they have to or that it's for the kids etc. When parents stay stuck for the sake of the kids it hurts them and the kids. It teaches the kids that they have to sacrifice and can't be happy and starts a generation pattern that continues. Show them that their happiness matters by not living in unhappiness yourself.
It could be anything from staying in a relationship they don't want, to thinking they have to stay at a job they don't like. The key is to start taking steps to get out of those things.
So many wait for a change in the person or situation to happen which most likely never will. Always go by how the person/situation is now. If you aren't happy with it, leave or make changes.
So many waste so many years hoping someone or something will change. Start steps towards what you want but know it's your choice to stay stuck or not! It may not be easy but you can make new choices and get out no matter what!
3. Not making decisions out of fear
So many are afraid to make a new choice out of fear usually fear of failure or change itself. In not making a choice at all you are assured to never move forward. And even if it doesn't work out you have learned from it and are still better off.
Just make a decision and know you can always make a different decision after if it's not right but no matter what, make a decision. You can't move forward if you stay stuck in indecision. As you start making choices it gets easier and easier and makes what you do want clearer and clearer.
If you are afraid of change know that change equals moving forward and progress. It is a good thing. We can never grow without change. No change will always equal being stuck. Embrace change and be excited about it! It's the only way forward!
4. Listening to what other people want for them instead of what they want
So many follow what others want for them for many different reasons. The problem is we are here on earth solely to express ourselves so doing what others want us to actually takes us off of our path. This will always cause us issues down the line.
This frequently happens when people do what their parents wanted them to. They do it and feel unfulfilled and always feel stuck. That's because they aren't expressing themselves and are farther and farther away from who they really are. You can never be happy that way no matter what.
Really get clear with what you want and be sure you aren't doing anything you don't want to for the sake of others. Express yourself, don't give up your happiness and your life path. It's your life, you are here for you! The happier you are the happier those around you will be. Stand firm in who you are!
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5. They don't trust their instincts and ignore red flags
This is a big one. Always trust your instincts! Don't talk yourself out of what you feel. Before something happens there are always clues and red flags. The problem is so many people ignore and or justify them. Doing this will always cause problems.
Always address any red flags immediately and don't let them keep building up. Those are vital clues towards what is going to happen let them guide you, don't hide from them! Red flags are always a road map of what's to come! Follow those clues and save yourself a lot of trouble. Your instincts will never let you down so trust them and trust yourself!
6. Not setting new goals
Setting new goals is always important. If you don't set any then how can you move forward? Nothing will ever just fall from the sky and happen, you need to make it happen. Setting goals and intentions is so important.
Our spirit guides work for us and can only help us if we are clear in what we want. So be clear and intentional with what you want. Picture it and see how things will be different when you achieve it.
If you don't set any goals you assure that none will be achieved. It's always best to work on one big goal at a time. Put all your energy into it and once you achieve it you can move on to the next. Plus a lot of times once you achieve one goal the rest will automatically fall into place.
Too many goals at once and confusion on what you want will only create confusion and never actually reaching any of them. Start with what's most important and go from there! Being clear on what you want will help you in all areas of your life and will allow your spirit guides to help you!
7. Doubts they can achieve what they want
Don't doubt yourself! If you are inspired to do something you can achieve it! Yes it always takes effort but don't make your life less than because of self doubt. Be confident and know that you can!
Those with self doubt can benefit by starting off with small, easier to achieve goals. As you start achieving them, your self confidence will grow and grow. You can do it, don't doubt yourself. No one ever feels confident when trying something new. New can be scary but those who achieve goals know they have to push through that fear and do it anyway.
When it's scary that actually means there is a great change that will come with it! You can never move forward in your comfort zone! Don't doubt yourself and push through that fear! Achieving that goal is always worth it.
Don't let these things keep you stuck. Stay aware of them and don't allow them to keep you stuck! Create the life you want! You are the artist of your life so paint it how you want! All you have to do is start and then go from there!